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Elwyn Brooks White (July 11, 1899 – October 1, 1985) was an American essayist, columnist, poet and editor. He is best known today for his work in a writers' guide, The Elements of Style, and for three children's books Charlotte's Web,Stuart Little and The Trumpet of the Swan generally regarded as classics.

See also: The Elements of Style

Quotes[edit]

  • "It's broccoli, dear."
    "I say it's spinach, and I say the hell with it."
    • Caption for a cartoon by Carl Rose in The New Yorker (8 December 1928)
  • Commuter — one who spends his life
    In riding to and from his wife;
    A man who shaves and takes a train
    And then rides back to shave again.
    • "Commuter," The Lady Is Cold (1929)
  • I have occasionally had the exquisite thrill of putting my finger on a little capsule of truth, and heard it give the faint squeak of mortality under my pressure.
    • Letter to Stanley Hart White (January 1929)
  • Did it ever occur to you that there's no limit to how complicated things can get, on account of one thing always leading to another?
  • Advertisers are the interpreters of our dreams — Joseph interpreting for Pharaoh. Like the movies, they infect the routine futility of our days with purposeful adventure. Their weapons are our weaknesses: fear, ambition, illness, pride, selfishness, desire, ignorance. And these weapons must be kept as bright as a sword.
    • "Truth in Advertising," The New Yorker (11 July 1936)
  • Necessity first mothered invention. Now invention has little ones of her own, and they look just like grandma.
    • "The Old and the New," The New Yorker (19 June 1937)
  • There is a decivilizing bug somewhere at work; unconsciously persons of stern worth, by not resenting and resisting the small indignities of the times, are preparing themselves for the eventual acceptance of what they themselves know they don’t want.
    • Harper's Magazine (October 1938); quoted in Scott Elledge, E.B. White: A Biography (New York: Norton, 1984), ch. X: Mr Tilley's Departure (p. 209)
  • Everything (he kept saying) is something it isn't. And everybody is always somewhere else.
  • All poets who, when reading from their own works, experience a choked feeling, are major. For that matter, all poets who read from their own works are major, whether they choke or not.
    • "How to Tell a Major Poet from a Minor Poet" in The New Yorker (1938); reprinted in Quo Vadimus: Or, the Case for the Bicycle (1939)
  • Humor can be dissected, as a frog can, but the thing dies in the process and the innards are discouraging to any but the pure scientific mind.
    • "Some Remarks on Humor," preface to A Subtreasury of American Humor (1941)
    • A very similar remark is often attributed to White, but may actually be a paraphrased version of the above statement: "Analyzing humor is like dissecting a frog. Few people are interested and the frog dies of it."
  • We received a letter from the Writers' War Board the other day asking for a statement on "The Meaning of Democracy." It is presumably our duty to comply with such a request, and it is certainly our pleasure. Surely the Board knows what democracy is. It is the line that forms on the right. It is the don't in don't shove. It is the hole in the stuffed shirt through which the sawdust slowly trickles, the dent in the high hat. Democracy is the recurrent suspicion that more than half of the people are right more than half of the time. It is the feeling of privacy in the voting booths, the feeling of communion in the libraries, the feeling of vitality everywhere.
    Democracy is the letter to the editor. Democracy is the score at the beginning of the ninth. It is an idea which hasn't been disproved yet, a song the words of which have not gone bad. It's the mustard on the hot dog and the cream in the rationed coffee. Democracy is a request from a War Board, in the middle of the morning in the middle of a war, wanting to know what democracy is.
    • The New Yorker (3 July 1943); reprinted as "Democracy" in The Wild Flag (1946)
  • Government is the thing. Law is the thing. Not brotherhood, not international cooperation, not security councils that can stop war only by waging it... Where does security lie, anyway — security against the thief, a bad man, the murderer? In brotherly love? Not at all. It lies in government.
    • As quoted in Common Cause: A Monthly Report of the Committee to Frame a World Constitution Vol. I, No. 2 (August 1947)
  • I am a member of a party of one, and I live in an age of fear. Nothing lately has unsettled my party and raised my fears so much as your editorial, on Thanksgiving Day, suggesting that employees should be required to state their beliefs in order to hold their jobs. The idea is inconsistent with our constitutional theory and has been stubbornly opposed by watchful men since the early days of the Republic.
    • Letter to the New York Herald Tribune (29 November 1947)
  • Security, for me, took a tumble not when I read that there were Communists in Hollywood but when I read your editorial in praise of loyalty testing and thought control. If a man is in health, he doesn't need to take anybody else's temperature to know where he is going.
    • Letter to the New York Herald Tribune (29 November 1947)
  • I discovered, though, that once having given a pig an enema there is no turning back, no chance of resuming one of life's more stereotyped roles.
    • "Death of a Pig," The Atlantic Monthly (January 1948)
  • The subtlest change in New York is something people don't speak much about but that is in everyone's mind. The city, for the first time in its long history, is destructible. A single flight of planes no bigger than a wedge of geese can quickly end this island fantasy, burn the towers, crumble the bridges, turn the underground passages into lethal chambers, cremate the millions. The intimation of mortality is part of New York now: in the sounds of jets overhead, in the black headlines of the latest edition.
    All dwellers in cities must dwell with the stubborn fact of annihilation; in New York the fact is somewhat more concentrated because of the concentration of the city itself and because, of all targets, New York has a certain clear priority. In the mind of whatever perverted dreamer who might loose the lightning, New York must hold a steady, irresistible charm.
    • "Here Is New York," Holiday (1948); reprinted in Here is New York (1949)
  • No one should come to New York to live unless he is willing to be lucky.
  • Americans are willing to go to enormous trouble and expense defending their principles with arms, very little trouble and expense advocating them with words. Temperamentally we are ready to die for certain principles (or, in the case of overripe adults, send youngsters to die), but we show little inclination to advertise the reasons for dying.
    • "The Thud of Ideas," The New Yorker (23 September 1950)
  • When I get sick of what men do, I have only to walk a few steps in another direction to see what spiders do. Or what the weather does. This sustains me very well indeed.
    • Letter to Carrie A. Wilson (1 May 1951)
  • It is not often that someone comes along who is a true friend and a good writer. Charlotte was both.
    • Charlotte's Web, last lines
  • We grow tyrannical fighting tyranny... The most alarming spectacle today is not the spectacle of the atomic bomb in an unfederated world, it is the spectacle of the Americans beginning to accept the device of loyalty oaths and witchhunts, beginning to call anybody they don't like a Communist.
    • Letter to Janice White (27 April 1952)
  • An editor is a person who knows more about writing than writers do but who has escaped the terrible desire to write.
    • Letter to Shirley Wiley (30 March 1954), in The Letters of E. B. White (1989), p. 391
  • I would feel more optimistic about a bright future for man if he spent less time proving that he can outwit Nature and more time tasting her sweetness and respecting her seniority.
    • "Coon Tree," The New Yorker (14 June 1956), The Points of My Compass: Letters from the East, the West, the North, the South (1962); reprinted in Essays of E.B. White (1977)
  • One of the most time-consuming things is to have an enemy.
    • "A Report in January" (30 January 1958), The Points of My Compass: Letters from the East, the West, the North, the South (1962); reprinted in Essays of E.B. White (1977)
  • If the world were merely seductive, that would be easy. If it were merely challenging, that would be no problem. But I arise in the morning torn between a desire to improve (or save) the world and a desire to enjoy (or savor) the world. This makes it hard to plan the day.
  • Life's meaning has always eluded me and I guess it always will. But I love it just the same.
    • Letter to Mary Virginia Parrish (29 August 1969)
  • An unhatched egg is to me the greatest challenge in life.
    • Letter to Reginald Allen (5 March 1973)
  • As long as there is one upright man, as long as there is one compassionate woman, the contagion may spread and the scene is not desolate. Hope is the one thing left to us in a bad time.
    • Letter to M. Nadeau (30 March 1973)
  • Sailors have an expression about the weather: they say the weather is a great bluffer. I guess the same is true of our human society — things can look dark, then a break shows in the clouds, and all is changed.
    • Letter to M. Nadeau (30 March 1973)
  • A man who publishes his letters becomes a nudist — nothing shields him from the world's gaze except his bare skin. A writer, writing away, can always fix things up to make himself more presentable, but a man who has written a letter is stuck with it for all time.
    • Letter to Corona Machemer (11 June 1975)
  • Ideally, a book of letters should be published posthumously. The advantages are obvious: the editor enjoys a free hand, and the author enjoys a perfect hiding place — the grave, where he is impervious to embarrassments and beyond the reach of libel. I have failed to cooperate with this ideal arrangement. Through some typical bit of mismanagement, I am still alive, and the book has had to adjust to that awkward fact.
    • Foreword to Letters of E.B. White, edited Dorothy Lobrano Guth (1976)
  • The essayist … can pull on any sort of shirt, be any sort of person, according to his mood or his subject matter — philosopher, scold, jester, raconteur, confidant, pundit, devil's advocate, enthusiast...
    • Foreword to Essays of E.B. White (1976)

One Man's Meat (1942)[edit]

  • I believe television is going to be the test of the modern world, and that in this new opportunity to see beyond the range of our vision we shall discover either a new and unbearable disturbance of the general peace or a saving radiance in the sky. We shall stand or fall by television — of that I am quite sure.
  • Television will enormously enlarge the eye's range, and, like radio, will advertise the Elsewhere. Together with the tabs, the mags, and the movies, it will insist that we forget the primary and the near in favor of the secondary and the remote.
  • Everything in life is somewhere else, and you get there in a car.
  • The future, wave or no wave, seems to me no unified dream but a mince pie, long in the baking, never quite done.
  • Before you can be an internationalist you have first to be a naturalist and feel the ground under you making a whole circle. It is easier for a man to be loyal to his club than to his planet; the bylaws are shorter, and he is personally acquainted with the other members. A club, moreover, or a nation, has a most attractive offer to make: it offers the right to be exclusive. There are not many of us who are physically constituted to resist this strange delight, this nourishing privilege. It is at the bottom of all fraternities, societies, orders. It is at the bottom of most trouble. The planet holds out no such inducement. The planet is everybody's. All it offers is the grass, the sky, the water, the ineluctable dream of peace and fruition.
    • "Intimations" (December 1941)
  • Once in everyone's life there is apt to be a period when he is fully awake, instead of half asleep. I think of those five years in Maine as the time when this happened to me … I was suddenly seeing, feeling, and listening as a child sees, feels, and listens. It was one of those rare interludes that can never be repeated, a time of enchantment. I am fortunate indeed to have had the chance to get some of it down on paper.
    • Foreword to revised edition (1982)
  • A despot doesn't fear eloquent writers preaching freedom — he fears a drunken poet who may crack a joke that will take hold.

The Wild Flag (1943)[edit]

First published in "The Talk of the Town" in The New Yorker (25 December 1943), p. 11; later in The Wild Flag (1946)
  • This is the dream we had, asleep in our chair, thinking of Christmas in the lands of fir tree and pine, Christmas in lands of palm tree and vine, and of how the one greatsky does for all places and all people.
    After the third great war was over (this was a curious dream), there was no more than a handful of people left alive, and the earth was in ruins and the ruins were horrible to behold. The people, the survivors, decided to meet to talk over their problem and to make a lasting peace, which is the customary thing to make after a long and exhausting war. There were eighty-three countries, and each country sent a delegate to the convention. One English-man came, one Peruvian, one Ethiopian, one Frenchman, one Japanese, and so on, until every country was represented.
  • Each delegate brought the flag of his homeland with him-each, that is, except the delegate from China. When the others asked him why he had failed to bring a flag, he said that he had discussed the matter with another Chinese survivor, an ancient and very wise man, and that between them they had concluded that they would not have any cloth flag for China anymore.
    'What kind of flag do you intend to have?' asked the delegate from Luxembourg. The Chinese delegate blinked his eyes and produced a shoebox, from which he drew a living flower which looked very like an iris. 'What is that?' they all inquired, pleased with the sight of so delicate a symbol.
    'That,' said the Chinese, 'is a wild flag, Iris tectorum. In China we have decided to adopt this flag, since it is a convenient and universal device and very beautiful and grows everywhere in the moist places of the earth for all to observe and wonder at. I propose all countries adopt it, so that it will be impossible for us to insult each other's flag.'
  • 'I don't see how a strong foreign policy can be built around a wild flag which is the same for everybody,' complained the Latvian.
    'It can't be,' said the Chinese. 'That is one of the virtues of my little flag. I should remind you that the flag was once yours, too. It is the oldest flag in the world, the original one, you might say. We are now, in an original condition again, you might say. There are very few of us.'
    The German delegate arose stiffly. 'I would be a poor man indeed,' he said, 'did I not feel that I belonged to the master race. And for that I need a special flag, natürlich.'
    'At the moment,' replied the Chinaman, 'the master race, like so many other races, is suffering from the handicap of being virtually extinct. There are fewer than two hundred people left in the entire world, and we suffer from a multiplicity of banner.'
  • The delegate from Patagonia spoke up. 'I fear that the wild flag, one for all, will prove an unpopular idea.'
    'It will, undoubtedly,' sighed the Chinese delegate. 'But now that there are only a couple of hundred people on earth, even the word "unpopular" loses most of its meaning. At this juncture we might conceivably act in a sensible, rather than a popular, manner.' And he produced eighty-two more shoeboxes and handed a wild flag to each delegate, bowing ceremoniously.
    Next day the convention broke up and the delegates returned to their homes, marveling at what they had accomplished in so short a time. And that is the end of our dream.

Paris Review interview (1969)[edit]

Interview with George Plimpton and Frank Crowther, Writers at Work: The Paris Review Interviews, series eight (Viking Penguin, 1988, ISBN 0-140-10761-4
  • In order to read one must sit down, usually indoors. I am restless and would rather sail a boat than crack a book. I've never had a very lively literary curiosity, and it has sometimes seemed to me that I am not really a literary fellow at all. Except that I write for a living.
  • New York is part of the natural world. I love the city, I love the country, and for the same reasons. The city is part of the country. When I had an apartment on East Forty-Eighth Street, my backyard during the migratory season yielded more birds than I ever saw in Maine.
  • Children are demanding. They are the most attentive, curious, eager, observant, sensitive, quick, and generally congenial readers on earth. They accept, almost without question, anything you present them with, as long as it is presented honestly, fearlessly, and clearly.
  • Children are game for anything. I throw them hard words, and they backhand them over the net. They love words that give them a hard time, provided they are in a context that absorbs their attention.
  • When you consider that there are a thousand ways to express even the simplest idea, it is no wonder writers are under a great strain. Writers care greatly how a thing is said — it makes all the difference. So they are constantly faced with too many choices and must make too many decisions.
    I am still encouraged to go on. I wouldn't know where else to go.

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I am a member of a party of one, and I live in an age of fear.
As long as there is one upright man, as long as there is one compassionate woman, the contagion may spread and the scene is not desolate. Hope is the one thing left to us in a bad time.
I say it's spinach, and I say the hell with it.
Necessity first mothered invention. Now invention has little ones of her own, and they look just like grandma.
Humor can be dissected, as a frog can, but the thing dies in the process and the innards are discouraging to any but the pure scientific mind.
If a man is in health, he doesn't need to take anybody else's temperature to know where he is going.
I would feel more optimistic about a bright future for man if he spent less time proving that he can outwit Nature and more time tasting her sweetness and respecting her seniority.
Life's meaning has always eluded me and I guess it always will. But I love it just the same.
They say the weather is a great bluffer. I guess the same is true of our human society — things can look dark, then a break shows in the clouds, and all is changed.
It is easier for a man to be loyal to his club than to his planet; the bylaws are shorter, and he is personally acquainted with the other members.
The planet is everybody's. All it offers is the grass, the sky, the water, the ineluctable dream of peace and fruition.
Once in everyone's life there is apt to be a period when he is fully awake, instead of half asleep...
We have decided to adopt this flag, since it is a convenient and universal device and very beautiful and grows everywhere in the moist places of the earth for all to observe and wonder at. I propose all countries adopt it, so that it will be impossible for us to insult each other's flag.
At this juncture we might conceivably act in a sensible, rather than a popular, manner.
When you consider that there are a thousand ways to express even the simplest idea, it is no wonder writers are under a great strain...
Writers care greatly how a thing is said — it makes all the difference.

Ayelet Waldman (born December 11, 1964) is an Israeli-American novelist and essayist. She has written seven mystery novels in the series The Mommy-Track Mysteries and four other novels. She has also written autobiographical essays about motherhood. Waldman spent three years working as a federal public defender and her fiction draws on her experience as a lawyer.

Early life and education[edit]

Ayelet Waldman's grandparents on both sides emigrated to North America from Ukraine early in the 20th century.[1] Her father, Leonard, was from Montreal, Quebec, Canada, but was living in Israel when he met her mother, Ricki. After they married, they moved to Jerusalem, where Waldman was born.[2] After the Six-Day War in 1967, her family moved to Montreal, then Rhode Island,[3] finally settling in Ridgewood, New Jersey when Waldman was in sixth grade.[4][5] Waldman attended Wesleyan University, where she studied psychology and government and studied in Israel in her junior year, graduating in 1986. She returned to Israel after college to live on a kibbutz, but found it too "sexist" for her taste.[6] Waldman then entered Harvard Law School. She graduated with a J.D. in 1991.[citation needed]

Legal and academic career[edit]

After graduating from law school, Waldman clerked for a federal judge, worked in a large corporate law firm in New York for a year, and then moved to California with Michael Chabon, where she became a criminal defense lawyer. Waldman was a federal public defender for three years in the Central District of California.[3] Chabon mentioned on their first date that it was his intention to care for his children so his wife could pursue her career, which he did after the birth of their first and second children.[7] After the birth of her first child, she tried juggling legal work with mothering,[8] then left her job to be with her husband and child. This was short-lived.[9]

Waldman was an adjunct professor at the Boalt Hall School of Law at the University of California, Berkeley from 1997 to 2003.[3][10] She also worked as a consultant to the Drug Policy Alliance, a resource center advocating a drug policy based on harm reduction.[11] While working as a university professor, she found writing scholarly articles uninteresting and intimidating,[12] so she began writing fiction instead.[13] According to Waldman, her fiction is "all about being a bad mother."[12] Waldman said she would not return to the legal profession.[14][15] In her fiction Waldman has drawn extensively on her legal experience.

Literary career[edit]

Waldman has written often about how she found full-time parenting to be monotonous.[16] She started writing various online and print articles about mothering[8] while at home on maternity leave after the birth of her first child[17][18] and again after she left her job as a public defender.[2] She has at various times said that she chose to write because it was not as time-consuming a career as the law,[19] because it gave her something to do during naptimes,[20] it kept her entertained,[21] because she was starved of someone to laugh at her jokes[22] and because it gave her a way of putting off going back to work.[14]

"Mommy-Track Mysteries"[edit]

In 1997 Waldman started writing mystery novels, thinking they would be "easy . . . light and fluffy."[23] At first she wrote in secret,[9] then with her husband's encouragement.[7] She has said that she chose mysteries because they are primarily about plot.[24] Waldman has said that her first mystery work, eventually published as Nursery Crimes, was her first attempt at creative writing,[21] describing it as her first piece of fiction "aside from my legal briefs."[14]

Waldman wrote seven novels about the "part-time sleuth and full-time mother" Juliet Applebaum. Waldman has said of Juliet, "She is me, well, she was me,"[15] and "They say to write what you know . . . so I wrote exactly what I knew."[23] Like Waldman, Juliet is a 5-foot-tall (1.5 m), red-headed former public defender with a nocturnal writer for a husband, who has become a stay-at-home mother but finds it boring. To relieve her boredom, Juliet works as a part-time detective. The collective title of the series is The Mommy-Track Mysteries. The novels are humorous and Waldman has said of her criminals, "My villains aren't villains. They're people whose crime you understand."[25] Waldman has previously said that Bye-Bye, Black Sheep is likely to be the last,[23] but her agent's website notes that she is working on more mysteries.[13]

Novels[edit]

In addition to the mystery genre, Waldman has published three other novels. Daughter's Keeper, published in 2003, drew on Waldman's experience as a criminal defense lawyer and representation of drug offenders.[10] The first manuscript was rejected thirty-one times.[21] It features a young woman, Olivia, who inadvertently becomes involved in the trafficking of drugs and her relationship with her emotionally-reserved mother. The book is also about the impact of federal drug policy, particularly mandatory minimum sentencing, on the criminal justice system.[14] The novel was inspired by a case Waldman handled.[26] The book was critically acclaimed[27][28][29] and was a finalist for the 2003 Northern California book Award.[5]

Love and Other Impossible Pursuits, published in 2006, is about a Harvard-educated lawyer with a precocious stepson who loses a newborn child to SIDS.[30] The impetus was the loss of her own unborn child diagnosed with a genetic abnormality.[31] The book also deals with how mothers criticize each other's mothering, a theme in Waldman's nonfiction too.[32] It explores negative feelings towards one's own children.[24] The novel was also reviewed well in places,[33][34][35][36][37] although some reviews were negative.[38]

Don Roos wrote and directed a film based on the novel,[39] starring Natalie Portman, Lisa Kudrow and Scott Cohen. The film premiered at the Toronto Film Festival in August 2009.[40]

Waldman's Red Hook Road, published in 2010, is about two bereaved families in a small village in Maine and the effect of a family tragedy and class differences on marriage, styles of motherhood (including the domineering), and family life. It is also about boxing and boat building.[32][41][42][43][44]

Short stories[edit]

Waldman has contributed short stories to the anthologies McSweeney's Stories of Love and Neuroses (2003) and McSweeney's Enchanted Chamber of Astonishing Stories (2004), the latter of which was edited by Michael Chabon. The short story "Minnow," which appeared in McSweeney's Enchanted Chamber of Astonishing Stories, is about a woman who is haunted by her dead baby. Again, she regards this as related to the loss of her own child.[45] A horror film is being developed, based on the short story.[46]

Nonfiction[edit]

Waldman has written many personal essays for online and print publications aspects of motherhood, such as how women criticize each other's mothering (that is, the "mommy wars"),[47] combining paid work with motherhood,[16] and how the upbringing of those raised in a postfeminist era clashed with the reality of having to make professional sacrifices.[47] Her essays have also explored the sexuality of mothers[48] and of young people,[49] homework,[50] extended family life,[51] body image,[52] aging,[53] literary hoaxes,[54] and Jewish life.[55] Although most of her nonfiction is personal, she has also written on aspects of the criminal justice system.[56]

Motherlove[edit]

Her 2005 essay "Motherlove" was first published in the anthology Because I Said So: 33 Mothers Write About Children, Sex, Men, Aging, Faith, Race and Themselves, where she thought it would have only a small readership.[22] However, it was reprinted in the Modern Love section of the New York Times in March 2005 under the headline "Truly, Madly, Guiltily." It can be read online here.[48] Waldman's essay led to extensive and vitriolic debate,[45][57] on television shows like The View,[58] on internet blogs,[59][60] in coffee shops, and elsewhere.[61] Some people even threatened to report Waldman to the Department of Social Services in relation to the perceived mistreatment of her family.[7]Oprah Winfrey, who said she was "very brave" for speaking out,[26] invited Waldman onto her television show, to discuss her views on love, marriage, and motherhood.[17][62]

Bad Mother[edit]

After Waldman complained about the response to her essay, a friend suggested she write a book about it.[7] In 2009, Waldman published a collection of her personal essays, Bad Mother: A Chronicle of Maternal Crimes, Minor Calamities, and Occasional Moments of Grace.[63] The book argues that no woman can be a perfect mother,[19] that, in fact, competitive, neurotic parenting and having unrealistic expectations may be damaging to children.[64] Waldman contends that society (particularly women, in what she calls the "Bad Mother police") are too hard on other women’s parenting skills.[65] The book includes chapters on women's criticism of the mothering by other women, feminism, motherhood, and associated anxieties, including anxieties about breastfeeding, marriage, sexuality of mothers and teenagers, homework, mental illness, the loss of her unborn child, and her relationship with her mother-in-law. The book was a New York Times best-seller, and generally it received favorable reviews.[66][67][68][69]

A Really Good Day[edit]

A Really Good Day was published in January 2017 and documents Waldman's taking microdoses of LSD to help cope with her debilitating mood and anxiety disorders.[70][71] She learned about this practice from a 2011 book by psychedelic researcher James Fadiman.[71][70]

Blogs[edit]

For a short time in 2004 and 2005, Waldman wrote a blog under the title "Bad Mother."[72] Her topics included sexuality, gay rights, motherhood, and her bipolar disorder. She said “A blog like this is narcissism in its most obscene flowering. But it's necessary. As a parent your days are consumed by other people's needs. This is payback for driving back and forth to gymnastics all week long.”[73] On her reaction to the criticism that her blogging engendered, she has said "It's ridiculous to be so willing to expose myself and at the same time be so hypersensitive. Those are two contradictory impulses no one person should have."[26] After an incident where she hinted at suicidal thoughts,[33] she decided to discontinue the blog. Although she found it a therapeutic way to channel frustrations[74] – likening the experience to "slashing my wrists and haemorrhaging all over the computer screen"[75] – she found it was having a deleterious effect on her writing.[26] Waldman blogged on the 2008 Democratic National Convention[76] and had a blog on her own website from 2008 to 2009 on a variety of subjects.[77]

Personal life[edit]

Waldman has been married to author Michael Chabon since 1993.[3][9] The couple work from the same office in the backyard of their home.[1][59] They edit each other's work,[21][23][26] and offer each other advice on writing,[2] sometimes going on "plot walks" to discuss issues.[17][46][78] Waldman and Chabon live in a 1907 Craftsman house[14] in the Elmwood district of Berkeley, California,[14] with their four children, Sophie (b. 1994), Ezekiel or "Zeke" b. 1997), Ida-Rose or "Rosie" (b. June 1, 2001), and Abraham or "Abe" (b. March 31, 2003).

Jewish upbringing[edit]

Waldman was raised in a Jewish family, attended Hebrew school and Jewish summer camps, and lived on a kibbutz in Israel for a year while in the tenth grade. She has said that her parents were atheists, but very Jewish,[74] and that her "whole life was immersed in Judaism, but in a very specific kind of Labor–Zionist Judaism."[6] Despite this, she did not celebrate becoming a Bat Mitzvah.[1] Many characters in her fiction are Jewish,[31] and her novel Love and Treasure is about the Holocaust.[1]

Mental illness[edit]

Waldman has written several times about her 2002 diagnosis of bipolar disorder, an illness that runs in her family,[11] and has spoken publicly about parenting while having a mental illness.[17][59][79][80]

Political activism[edit]

During the 2008 Presidential primaries and general election campaign, Waldman campaigned and raised funds in support of Barack Obama,[81] acting as a full-time volunteer, speaking at fundraisers;[82] she was appointed as a delegate to the 2008 Democratic National Convention.[76]

Published works[edit]

"Mommy-Track" mystery novels[edit]

  • Nursery Crimes (2000)
  • The Big Nap (2001)
  • Playdate With Death (2002)
  • Death Gets a Time-Out (2003)
  • Murder Plays House (2004)
  • The Cradle Robbers (2005)
  • Bye-Bye, Black Sheep (2006)

Other novels[edit]

Nonfiction[edit]

  • Bad Mother: A Chronicle of Maternal Crimes, Minor Calamities, and Occasional Moments of Grace (2009)
  • A Really Good Day: How Microdosing Made a Mega Difference in My Mood, My Marriage, and My Life (2017)

References[edit]

  1. ^ abcdWilensky, Sheila, "Connections speaker is an engaging, witty chronicler of women's lives"Archived July 19, 2011, at the Wayback Machine., Jewish Tucson, February 12, 210. Retrieved August 27, 2010.
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External links[edit]

  • Ayelet Waldman's website
  • Ayelet Waldman on IMDb
  • Radio interview Fresh Air with Terry Gross, May 5, 2009: NPR "Ayelet Waldman's Memoir of a 'Bad Mother'"
  • MoJo "Podcast: 'Bad Mother' Author Ayelet Waldman", Mother Jones, September 26, 2009
  • "To the best of our knowledge", North Country Public Radio
  • "Conversations with the Chancellor: Ayelet Waldman interview", University of California, Berkeley, January 26, 2004
  • How LSD ‘Microdosing’ Saved Ayelet Waldman’s Marriage, New York Times

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